The Lie of Having it All

Once upon a time there was a woman who wanted to have it all.

She wanted a successful career, a fantastic marriage, happy kids, and a beautiful home.

She wanted a svelte figure and a perfect complexion.

She wanted thriving relationships with her girlfriends and family.

She wanted to volunteer at her church and local organizations.

She wanted thriving girlfriend relationships.

She wanted it all.

Then one day, she woke up exhausted, disillusioned, and discouraged.


Why do we put such unrealistic expectation upon ourselves? Why do we spend our precious time and energy trying to be all and have all?

Who told us we have to have it all?  The enemy of our souls did, that’s who.  And that enemy is just a big, fat, liar.  I call his lies Wonder Woman lies.  I even wrote a book about those lies and how to overcome them.

We have had the shiny lure having it constantly dangling in front of us our entire lives.  We took the bait and now we’re too tired for the most important of all: our relationship with God.

Oh, my dear sister, please hear God’s heart for you on this.  God has already given you all when He gave you His dear Son.  He doesn’t expect you, or want you, to be caught up in the pursuit of having it all.  Instead, He wants you to be caught up in the pursuit of having Him-the all in all.

When we believe the lie of all, we miss out on God’s best for us.  We get distracted.  Our focus becomes what we think we should be instead of what God made us to be.


When I was younger, I bought into this lie of having it all.  I tried to decorate my home according to Better Homes and Gardens. I exercised like a maniac.  I put impossible demands on my husband and kids.  I burned the candle on both ends every single day until I was the puddle of wax on the floor.  The result wasn’t pretty, trust me.

The lie of having it all nearly destroyed everything good in my life and left me feeling empty.

When I had enough of trying so hard to be something I’m not, God met me there and showed me who I was meant to be, and what I was meant to have.

The lie of having it all says we need to do life our way to be happy.  The truth of God says do it His way and you’ll have peace and joy, and a full life.

There’s a truth in God’s word that we have to grab hold of if we are going to defeat the lie of having it all.

“The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” (John 10:10 NLT)

You see, the enemy of your soul wants to steal your joy, kill your spirit, and destroy your relationship with God.  But in this verse, Jesus says what He gives to counter that: a rich and satisfying life.  Isn’t that what we are longing for in the pursuit of having it all?  Isn’t that the lie we believe?  That if we have it all, we’ll have a rich and satisfying life?

The truth is we will only have a full, rich, satisfying life when we take what Jesus lovingly gives us.  When we lay down what we think will bring us life, and take the life God offers us instead.

Don’t believe the lie of having it all, believe the truth of more.  A life more beautiful and and rich and full that you could ever imagine.

God has a life for you that is better than you could imagine:

“No eye has seen, no ear has heard,
    and no mind has imagined
what God has prepared
    for those who love him.” (1 Corinthians 2:9)

You can’t even fathom the awesome life God has for you!  But in order to get it, you have to lay down the lie of having it all, and pick up this truth instead: God loves you enough to not give you what you want.

He wants to give you more.

Having left the lie of having it all myself, I can tell you that now my life is so full, and rich, and satisfying that I can barely take it all in.  Many days I am so overwhelmed by God’s good life for me that I am brought to tears of gratefulness.

The life I have now looks nothing like the life I was pursuing in my younger days, when I believed the lie of having it all.  My house is kinda ugly. My career has it’s ups and downs. I learned to embrace my imperfect body and wrinkles. My marriage and kids aren’t always perfect. My relationships wax and wane. I say no to a lot of things.  But it is my life.  The life God has for me.  It belongs to me and no one else.  And it’s beautiful!

What about you?

Have you been pursuing the lie of all?

Are you tired out yet?

Are you ready to lay down your life and pick up the one God has for you?

You won’t regret it, I promise!