This is the third and final installment on Workplace Drama for Workplace Wednesdays. Not because we have exhausted this topic. On the contrary, it seems like I could go on for a while, and since 78% of women in our survey on the workplace admitted that workplace Drama is an issue they face, there is certainly more ground to cover. (I guess you’ll have to wait for the book.)
Instead I dialed it down to a list of 7 ways that you can handle the Drama. 7 tools from God’s word, on how to handle the Drama in a way that honors God and helps you. Here they are:
1. Seek Peace: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”(Roman 12:18 NIV)
When dealing with Workplace Drama, the first tool is to seek peace. Notice God says here-“as much as depends on you”. You can’t control what others do, but you can control what you do with others. Seek to live in peace with those around you in your workplace calling. Sometimes, that will mean that you walk away from a conversation; sometimes you will bite your tongue while someone talks. Sometimes you will need to need to pray for ways to seek peace. No matter the situation, if you see to live at peace, in God;s power, He will honor your desire and give you ways to accomplish his will.
2. Keep secrets: “A gossip goes around telling secrets,but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.” (Proverbs 11:13 NLT)
Keeping secrets is important when dealing with Workplace Drama. It stops the flow of gossip, and builds confidence between you and other’s in your workplace. If you can be trusted with their secrets, you can be trusted to share the deeper truths of God and the hope that he provides in his Son Jesus. Go ahead and tell the Lord what you heard, but don’t tell anyone else.
3.Be Nice: “Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.” (Romans 12:21 NLT)
Being kind goes a long way. When you are nice to those in your workplace who aren’t, you are doing things God’s way. So when you are faced with the bully, the critic, the one who wants to sabotage your career, remember this verse, and remember that God will bless your obedience to it. God’s goodness triumphs mankind’s evil every time. You may not see immediate results, but no one can resist someone’s genuine kindness. And truth be told, people like the bully, the critic, and the saboteur probably don’t know what it’s like to be treated kind. Think of the impact you can have on them!
4. Be Honest: ” Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.” (Ephesians 4:15 NLT)
This can be a difficult one sometimes and will require the Holy Spirit leading you, but speaking the truth is a powerful thing- when it is done in love. When your heart is attempting to give the love of God to a coworker, your words of truth will bring healing. Some people are never faced with the truth of their behavior, their lies, their effect on others and even the effect that their behavior has on themselves. This can be a trans-formative way to handle the Drama, if done correctly and in love. Just remember to focus on the problem and not the person.
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5. Be the example: ” And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.” (Titus 2:7 NLT)
If you aren’t walking the walk, you have no business talking the talk. This is not a “holier than thou” attitude, it’s about being an authentic believer. Reflecting what you teach. Once others know you are a believer, they are already watching you. They are waiting to see if you are the real deal or just another church going hypocrite. This is not about being perfect, but owning your mistakes sins and and through that lifting up the grace of God in your life.
6. Pray for them: “But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!” (Matthew 5:44)
These words are straight from the heart of God and the mouth of Jesus. You cannot pray for someone and be mad at them at the same time. The most difficult, drama inducing person in your workplace should be at the top of your payer list. Let’s be real, you spend more waking hours with that difficult person than you do with your own family. So pray for them.
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No one is a lost cause. No one is beyond hope as long as they are alive and breathing. If God did a miracle in your heart, He can do a miracle in the heart of your co-worker who hails down a Drama storm in your workplace. Nothing is too hard for God. Pray, and keep on praying.
7. Look in the Mirror: “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” (Matthew 7:3-5 NIV)
Wow! Zinger! Straight from the mouth of Jesus. Sometimes the source of the workplace Drama is…me. It’s…you. It’s important to take a step back and check to see if we are contributing to the Drama that is present in our workplace, let’s face it, God made us women to be emotional creatures for a purpose, but sometimes we lose that purpose and let our emotions spill onto every person and place we step foot. Stop and do a heart check. As the Lord to show you areas and ways where you are contributing to the Drama in your workplace, and then ask Him to root it out of you. Get rid of the junk in your heart so you can effectively minister to others with junk in their heart.
What do you think? Do these 7 tips help you in dealing with the Workplace Drama in your life?
What would you add?
What would you take away?
We’d love to hear of your input on this topic!