You get to work and there they stand, the Bully of the workplace. Like a formidable giant waiting for you to cross the threshold so they can knock you and/or others to the ground. Maybe there is a whole group of them facing you.
Truth be told, you were thinking of them on the way into work: what new ploy will they come up with today to push their way into the boss’s good graces. Who will they pick on today?
Or perhaps it;s the Critic, who finds fault with everything anyone does. They spend most of their time vocally expressing to everyone their dislike for management’s new decision, or even the way someone breathes.
Maybe you have the person who is angry all the time or jealous of you with malicious intent.
Whatever category fits in your situation, if you are experiencing this type of Workplace Drama, rest easy; you are not alone.
In this second in a series on Workplace Drama, we continue to explore the topic of Workplace Drama. This one issue seems to plague more women than any other workplace issue. Last time we looked at the root cause of Workplace Drama: the sin nature.
This week we will look at how to handle the people who bring drama to your workplace in a biblical way. Did you the Bible actually addresses Workplace Drama? David dealt with Workplace Drama.
You remember David from the Bible: shepherd boy who became king, called by God himself as, “a man after God’s own heart.” Isn’t that what we would like to hear God say about us? That we are after His own heart?
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David wasn’t perfect by any means. But he seemed to know how to handle those who opposed him. Let’s look at how David handled Workplace Drama:
The Bully– (1 Samuel 17) Goliath-that big, tall drink of water who worked for the Philistines was a bully. He came out and taunted the Israelite army, every day, twice a day, for 40 days. Everyone was afraid of Goliath-and rightly so-except for David.
David understood who had his back. He understood that it was God’s battle, not his. And he understood that sometimes you have to stand and fight.
Too many Christians these days think that meek means weak. Nothing could be further from the truth. Meekness is strength under control. It means you are strong, but don’t blow your top.
As much as we dislike confrontation, sometimes it’s the only solution. But do it like David, with God’s power and not your own.
The Critic– So not only does David deal with the Bully, he also faces the Critic-Eliab. Eliab was David’s own brother who assigned false motives to David. He criticized David for doing the right thing.
You will face that as a woman of faith in the workplace. you will choose to do what is right, and it will cause others to criticize you for it. The may call you a “goodie two-shoes” all day long, but you choose to do what is right anyway, and let God handle the rest.
That’s what David did when Eliab criticized him. He knew Eliab was wrong, but he didn’t focus on Eliab’s faults. Instead, he kept looking toward doing the right thing regardless of Eliab’s criticisms.
The Jealous– David defeats the giant Goliath, and is immediately given a job working for the King. King Saul. But Saul becomes jealous of David. He was jealous of David’s popularity, and abilities. But most of all, he was jealous that God was with David. (1 Samuel 18)
When you face the Jealous in your workplace, realize what they are jealous about first. It probably has less to do with what you have accomplished in the workplace, and more to do with the peace and joy you possess as a result of your relationship with God. Although I doubt you will have anyone in your workplace attempting to pin you to the wall with a spear.
What did David do in this situation? He took the path of the wise retreat. He knew when He needed to make himself scarce. Sometimes it is a good thing to just walk away from a situation.
The Angry– fast forward several years, David is on the run from Saul with his men, wives and children. (1 Samuel 30) One day while the men are on a raid, the Amalekites come and destroy David’s camp and take all the women and children hostage. When the men return and find out what has happened, they cry their eyes out, and then they talk of killing David. His own men want to stone him to death.
I doubt any of us have ever faced such hostility in the workplace. What does David do? He found strength in the Lord. (1 Samuel 30:6) David didn’t try to reason with the ones who wanted to kill him. Instead he sought out the Lord, and then the Lord told him how to fix the problem.
Working with these type of people is rough-no question. And you may be saying, “But you don;t know the kind of Drama I have to face.” And you’re right, I don’t. But God does. He knows the details of every Workplace Drama situation you are facing. And He also knows the solution for it.
God gives us His word, and the stories like these of David, to help us. To help us know HOW to live in this world, how to interact with those around us. And even how to deal with the Bully, the Critic, the Jealous, and the Angry.
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They help you grow in your dependence on God and give you opportunities to live for God and trust Him for the results.
Whatever you are facing this encouragement goes with you:
What about you? Have you have to face any of these people in your workplace Drama?
How did you handle it? What helped you? What would you do differently next time?
We’d love to hear your thoughts on this!